脱口秀女王奥普拉的10条人生箴言

    1.不用"只是"

    Stop using the word "just" to describe yourself. Oprah says: "Stop saying that." I can't tell you how often I tell people that I'm "just" a yoga teacher, "just" a blogger, "just" an artist. I've been delving into my motivation for doing this - maybe I want to make certain that everyone else knows that I know I'm nothing special before they can size me up and judge me. And sometimes I think I use this phrase to lessen my accountability in certain situations. If I'm "just" an artist, how can I be expected to be smart with money, for instance? I also think I use it, subconsciously, to decrease my importance in the eyes of others. Whatever my excuses, I need to suck it up and cut the word from my identity once and for all.

    不要用"只是"来修饰自己。奥普拉这样说到："我经常听到别人这样介绍自己，我只是一个瑜伽教练，只是一个撰写博客的人，只是一名搞艺术的人。我一直在自己的领域专心研究--也许我们这样说只是希望别人在评价我们的时候可以把我们当成一个平凡的不能再平凡的人，这样我们就不必去承担一定要去做更好的压力，因为我们只是一个平凡的人。不管你的借口是什么，不要使用'just'这个词".

    2.赞扬别人

    2. Build up men. In the words of Oprah: "The truth of the matter is, men do need to be made to feel like they're winners. They do need to have themselves built up." Yeah, I know. It's painful to read the first time, isn't it? I was so disgusted by this assignment when I first read it, I had a hard time implementing it in my life. But instead of being insulted by my stream of compliments, gratitude and ego-boosting, the men in my life seemed happier, more amenable to change and more relaxed. I hesitate to use the words "putty in my hands," but boy, are they far more susceptible to flattery than any woman I've ever met.

    赞扬别人。引用奥普拉的话说"每个人都希望别人认为自己是个大赢家，他们需要别人的肯定。"

    3.减少浪费

    Be conscious of waste. "Ask yourself, 'What can I live without?'" This has always been important to me, but is now my constant subtext every time I step into a grocery store, browse an online retail site or watch a television commercial. It's been good for my wallet. On the flip side, my husband worries that I'm not allowing myself anything special in my quest to live "without." He is probably right, and I'll need to learn where the middle ground is here.

    减少浪费。"问问自己，有哪些东西我可以不用买，但是还是可以好好地活下去。"

    4.勤俭节约

    4. Stay clear about finances and don't spend money you don't have. Need I say more? The easiest part of this assignment is avoiding using credit; the tough part is the clarity. I cringe when it comes to my personal finances, and would much rather stick my head in the sand and hope that by the time I come up for air, we all go back to the barter system.

    好好理财，勤俭节约。这个还需要我再去说么？最简单的方法就是不要使用信用卡，接着就是明细账单。