《失控》作者、《连线》杂志创始主编凯文·凯利(KK)，70岁的时候在自己的个人网站上发布了他希望早点知道的103条建议，吸引了大批的关注，并直接导致他的个人网站瘫痪。后来他逐渐扩充这些建议，并集结成一本包含了500条建议的智慧手册《宝贵的人生建议：我希望早点知道的智慧Excellent Advice for Living：Wisdom I Wish I'd Known Earlier》，本文从这本书中挑选了一些，和大家分享：It is not hard to identify a thief: they are the one who believes that everybody steals.1识别小偷并不难: 认为每个人都会偷东西的人，就是小偷。世界是映照自己内心的一面镜子，你是什么样的人，就会看见什么样的世界。 The best way to get a correct answer on the internet is to post an obviously wrong answer and wait for someone to correct you.在互联网上获得正确答案的最好方式是：贴一个明显错误的答案，然后等着别人纠正你。小红书上有一类旅游笔记，它们往往会通过引战的方式来吸引关注，比如标题写“千万别来柳州！”点进去会发现，作者第一句话是道歉。说自己故意正话反说，就是要激起本地人的好胜心，把深度玩家吸引进来，推荐哪里值得去。Your best photo portrait will be taken not while you are smiling, but when you are quiet a minute after you have been laughing. Use a photographer that makes you laugh.你最好的肖像照 不应该在你微笑时拍， 而应该在你大笑之后，安静的那一刻拍。找一个能让你笑的摄影师。 To rapidly reveal the true character of a person you just met, observe them stuck on an abysmally slow internet connection.刚认识一个人时，要迅速发现他真实的性格，可以观察他，在网速极慢时会怎么做。When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is a gift to ourselves.当你原谅别人时，对方可能没有察觉，但你会被治愈。宽恕不是我们为别人做的奉献，宽恕是我们给自己的礼物。If you meet a jerk, overlook them. If you meet jerks everywhere everyday, look deeper into yourself.如果你遇到一个混蛋，忽略他。如果你每天到处遇到混蛋，那么你需要更深入地审视自身。No secrets. You are much better off delivering unwelcomed news to someone yourself directly. A secret is rarely unknown, which means inevitably someone else will share it. Meanwhile the secret corrodes all who hold it. Resist accepting secrets.世上没有秘密。你最好是直接把不受欢迎的消息告诉别人。纸包不住火，秘密不可避免地会被传递。同时，所有掌握秘密的人，都会被秘密腐蚀。你要拒绝接收秘密。Getting cheated occasionally is the small price for trusting the best of everyone, because when you trust the best in others, they generally treat you best.如果你相信每个人最好的一面，那么偶尔被骗，只是这么做的微小的成本，因为当你相信别人最好的一面时，他们通常待你最好。Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better.始终要规定一个截止日期，因为这可以筛选掉，无关紧要和平淡无奇的东西。截止日期有助于纠正你的完美主义倾向，迫使你找到不一样的解决方案。不一样是一件好事。Whatever your age, these are your golden years.If you want to go fast go alone; if you want to go further go together.如果你想走得快，就独自走;如果你想走得远，就一起走。Over the long term, the future is decided by optimists. To be an optimist you don’t have to ignore the multitude of problems we create; you just have to imagine how much our ability to solve problems improves.长期而言，未来是由乐观主义者决定的。成为乐观主义者，不意味着你必须忽视我们创造的众多问题。你只需要想象，我们解决问题的能力能有多么大的提升。Most overnight successes — in fact any significant successes take at least 5 years. Budget your life accordingly.大多数一夜之间取得的成功，都需要至少五年时间，事实上，任何重大成功都是如此。以此为依据，规划你的生活。很多一炮走红的背后是无数日夜的积累，量变才能引起质变。我们往往只看到结果，而忽视了背后的过程。It is easier to maintain a habit by switching your language from “I can’t do X” to ‘I don't do X.” You shift the weight from a wavering choice to an unwavering identity.要培养一种习惯，就要改变你的语言，从“我做得到还是做不到”变成“我做还是不做”。这样你就转移了重心，从摇摆不定的选择，转移到了一种坚定的身份。不要想“能不能做到”，这个问题没有答案。要么不做，要么立即做，不要犹豫。Don’t worry how or where you begin. As long as you keep moving, your success will arrive far from where you start.不要担心如何开始，或者从哪里开始。只要你在持续前进，你的成功终将到来，到时你已远远超越自己的出发点。Your growth as a conscious being is measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have.作为一个成熟的人，衡量你成长程度的尺度是，你愿意进行多少令人不舒服的谈话。Ask anyone you admire: Their lucky breaks happened on a detour from their main goal. So embrace detours. Life is not a straight line for anyone.问问你崇敬的人：他们幸运的突破发生在他们偏离主要目标，绕道的时候。所以要拥抱弯路。The best way to learn anything is to try to teach what you know.学习任何东西的最好方法是，试着把你所知道的东西教给别人。To transcend the influence of your heroes, copy them shamelessly like a student until you get them out of your system. That is the way of all masters.如果你想超越你心目中的英雄对你的影响，那就放下自尊心，像学生一样模仿他们，直到你能超越他们。这是所有大师的成功之道。当你想放弃时，再做五个：五分钟，五页，五步。然后再做五个。有时你可以突破并继续前进，但即使在未能突破的情况下，你也多做了五个。告诉你自己，明天可以放弃，但今天不行。When you feel like quitting, just do five more; 5 more minutes, 5 more pages, 5 more steps. Then repeat. Sometimes you can breakthrough and keep going, but even if you don’t you ended 5 ahead.假期愉快！
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